Love Triangles & Me
Due to some circumstances, I can't speak or spill everything out. And what I'm about to write will be brief.
I know this person (and I'm not talking about myself), who is having a dilemma. He / She is in a love triangle. He/ She loves the partner and I suppose the partner feels the same way. But the partner's partner :-p doesn't know about the the whole idea or has a rough guess of what's going on but not till the whole extent.
In any case, my personal opinion on love triangles is fine for a certain period of time; time being if the person you adore drags the whole thing too long, then just leave that person. You don't want to be someone's pet dog. Because I was once in that particular predicament. And when I say by it being fine, it has to be the person I'm having some affection for has the same feeling. It has to be mutual. AND my partner's current girlfriend or boyfriend depending on which side of the gender wars you are is not treating you well at all. Always having fights, being over clingy, taking you for granted. All of the major flaws of a relationship. If it's minor, I suggest stay away from him / her. Or if you must just wait at the sidelines till he or she is single again.
If you are facing this problem or situation (which ever you want to look at it), if their relationship are going down hill, I say its fair game. Now you might think what if I was the one in the other end of the spectrum. Well, yes I will be furious and jealous and what not. But if you do not understand the situation, the situation being you are causing the problems. And any resentment you say to her it will only make it worse. Then you had it coming. Don't force your partner to love you back. That is like putting more insect repellant and you being the insect.
Make it as though and you should anyways that you have realize your mistake(s). You are deeply sorry for the actions and words that you have acted on and said before. If she or he really feels more about the other person, then you won't stop it. Cause it is your mistake to begin with. And you really had it coming. If he or she really will be happier than you should feel happy and just have to power through with the heart ache. Don't turn into someone who clings after. That would just make it even worse. From bad, to worse, to worst, to only god can save you now.
Me being a male I have a few things that I want to say. Guys if you love or so head over heels for a girl, and it so happens that she already seeing someone but facing some rough patches. Certify first that their relationship is about to end or worse comes to worst, she is better off with you. Don't play around with a happy relationship. Or a relationship where it can work out after all. You could be ruining a happy marriage in the end.
And always take care of your girl. Love her till the point where other people will just get sick and tired of your love to your partner. Once you get her. Because if you are the one who breaks up a relationship (yes even though it is a bad one and especially a bad one) she can and will find somebody else that makes her happy if you don't step up to the challenge of making your woman the happiest living being on earth. When I say challenge it means you will never make her the happiest but shouldn't be a reason for you to stop trying.
If she nags or whines or pissed freaking mad at you, just deal with it. Make it up to her. And it's not always because of expensive gifts you can patch things up. Be spontaneous, be flirtatious with her over and over again, be caring, be thoughtful, be the best bed partner ever (don't lie girls, you do want your man to be good in that area), be everything that a woman wants a man to be. And maybe, maybe she can be the happiest woman in the world.
Don't forget to praise her in everything you do. And offer to do everything she wants to do. Even if she wants to fix a broken T.V or a leaking pipe, offer her a helping hand or better yet, do it for her. And girls we are not trying to show you that we are the dominant species or something. It's just what we do. I guess that's about it. I have astray from the thing that I've been talking about but there's no harm in there.
I suppose before I end it I would like to say this. Continuing from where I left off ...
I know this person (and I'm not talking about myself), who is having a dilemma. He / She is in a love triangle. He/ She loves the partner and I suppose the partner feels the same way. But the partner's partner :-p doesn't know about the the whole idea or has a rough guess of what's going on but not till the whole extent.
In any case, my personal opinion on love triangles is fine for a certain period of time; time being if the person you adore drags the whole thing too long, then just leave that person. You don't want to be someone's pet dog. Because I was once in that particular predicament. And when I say by it being fine, it has to be the person I'm having some affection for has the same feeling. It has to be mutual. AND my partner's current girlfriend or boyfriend depending on which side of the gender wars you are is not treating you well at all. Always having fights, being over clingy, taking you for granted. All of the major flaws of a relationship. If it's minor, I suggest stay away from him / her. Or if you must just wait at the sidelines till he or she is single again.
If you are facing this problem or situation (which ever you want to look at it), if their relationship are going down hill, I say its fair game. Now you might think what if I was the one in the other end of the spectrum. Well, yes I will be furious and jealous and what not. But if you do not understand the situation, the situation being you are causing the problems. And any resentment you say to her it will only make it worse. Then you had it coming. Don't force your partner to love you back. That is like putting more insect repellant and you being the insect.
Make it as though and you should anyways that you have realize your mistake(s). You are deeply sorry for the actions and words that you have acted on and said before. If she or he really feels more about the other person, then you won't stop it. Cause it is your mistake to begin with. And you really had it coming. If he or she really will be happier than you should feel happy and just have to power through with the heart ache. Don't turn into someone who clings after. That would just make it even worse. From bad, to worse, to worst, to only god can save you now.
Me being a male I have a few things that I want to say. Guys if you love or so head over heels for a girl, and it so happens that she already seeing someone but facing some rough patches. Certify first that their relationship is about to end or worse comes to worst, she is better off with you. Don't play around with a happy relationship. Or a relationship where it can work out after all. You could be ruining a happy marriage in the end.
And always take care of your girl. Love her till the point where other people will just get sick and tired of your love to your partner. Once you get her. Because if you are the one who breaks up a relationship (yes even though it is a bad one and especially a bad one) she can and will find somebody else that makes her happy if you don't step up to the challenge of making your woman the happiest living being on earth. When I say challenge it means you will never make her the happiest but shouldn't be a reason for you to stop trying.
If she nags or whines or pissed freaking mad at you, just deal with it. Make it up to her. And it's not always because of expensive gifts you can patch things up. Be spontaneous, be flirtatious with her over and over again, be caring, be thoughtful, be the best bed partner ever (don't lie girls, you do want your man to be good in that area), be everything that a woman wants a man to be. And maybe, maybe she can be the happiest woman in the world.
Don't forget to praise her in everything you do. And offer to do everything she wants to do. Even if she wants to fix a broken T.V or a leaking pipe, offer her a helping hand or better yet, do it for her. And girls we are not trying to show you that we are the dominant species or something. It's just what we do. I guess that's about it. I have astray from the thing that I've been talking about but there's no harm in there.
I suppose before I end it I would like to say this. Continuing from where I left off ...
"No matter how successful and independent a woman is, a true and loyal man’s entirety is to please his partner. To be there for his partner. We’re not trying to show our testosterone, but its just feels right when a man takes care of his woman."
-end-
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